Wednesday, January 23, 2013
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
I can only imagine the pain they must be going through losing a member of the family. Sometimes I look at my beloved Ninna and I wonder what I would do when one day I have to bid her farewell. I cannot imagine a life in which my dog is not with me. No human can love you the way a dog does. A dog doesn't care what you look like or what you do or any such minor details. All she asks is that you love her. And I do love my Ninna so much. She's the light of my eyes. She knows when I've had a bad day. She comes to me running full speed when I get home and rewards me with an endless supply of kisses. She never leaves my side as long as I'm at home. I could learn a thing or two about unconditional love from my little baby. And one day in a few years I will have to let her go and get used to living without her. I never want to lose her but lose her I will.
But till she's here with me I promise to love her just as much as she loves me although it might prove to be a difficult task because a human's ability to love is simply dwarfed by the vastness of a dog's heart. I love you my baby, may you stay forever young.
Monday, January 21, 2013
“We really have to understand the person we want to love. If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love. If we only think of ourselves, if we know only our own needs and ignore the needs of the other person, we cannot love. We must look deeply in order to see and understand the needs, aspirations, and suffering of the person we love. This is the ground of real love. You cannot resist loving another person when you really understand him or her.
From time to time, sit close to the one you love, hold his or her hand, and ask, 'Darling, do I understand you enough? Or am I making you suffer? Please tell me so that I can learn to love you properly. I don't want to make you suffer, and if I do so because of my ignorance, please tell me so that I can love you better, so that you can be happy." If you say this in a voice that communicates your real openness to understand, the other person may cry.
That is a good sign, because it means the door of understanding is opening and everything will be possible again.
Maybe a father does not have time or is not brave enough to ask his son such a question. Then the love between them will not be as full as it could be. We need courage to ask these questions, but if we don't ask, the more we love, the more we may destroy the people we are trying to love. True love needs understanding. With understanding, the one we love will certainly flower.”
Thich Nhat Hanh, Peace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life
“You must be completely awake in the present to enjoy the tea.
Only in the awareness of the present, can your hands feel the pleasant warmth of the cup.
Only in the present, can you savor the aroma, taste the sweetness, appreciate the delicacy.
If you are ruminating about the past, or worrying about the future, you will completely miss the experience of enjoying the cup of tea.
You will look down at the cup, and the tea will be gone.
Life is like that.
If you are not fully present, you will look around and it will be gone.
You will have missed the feel, the aroma, the delicacy and beauty of life.
It will seem to be speeding past you. The past is finished.
Learn from it and let it go.
The future is not even here yet. Plan for it, but do not waste your time worrying about it.
Worrying is worthless.
When you stop ruminating about what has already happened, when you stop worrying about what might never happen, then you will be in the present moment.
Then you will begin to experience joy in life.”
Thich Nhat Hanh
And here is another excerpt that I also loved and today when I have my tea I will try to be in the moment and truly enjoy the beauty of it.
“Tea is an act complete in its simplicity.
When I drink tea, there is only me and the tea.
The rest of the world dissolves.
There are no worries about the future.
No dwelling on past mistakes.
Tea is simple: loose-leaf tea, hot pure water, a cup.
I inhale the scent, tiny delicate pieces of the tea floating above the cup.
I drink the tea, the essence of the leaves becoming a part of me.
I am informed by the tea, changed.
This is the act of life, in one pure moment, and in this act the truth of the world suddenly becomes revealed: all the complexity, pain, drama of life is a pretense, invented in our minds for no good purpose.
There is only the tea, and me, converging.”
Thich Nhat Hanh
Sunday, January 20, 2013
Saturday, January 19, 2013
Thursday, January 10, 2013
There's a birthday party to attend in the night so it's going to get late till I finally crash out my sick and weary bones. Increasingly I feel like I'm getting old at double the speed compared to any other time in my life. Or may be I'm just having a sleepy day...
Sunday, January 06, 2013
The engagement was at Dina's house which was decorated in white and teal. Dina came down the stars in a lovely teal dress. Elie ran up and put the ring on her finger. Everyone was joyous, it was such a beautiful moment and I loved being there!
Thursday, January 03, 2013
So here's a gem of a photograph which I found thanks to facebook. It's the day I convocated at National Institute of Design. I remember the day very well. We were all hanging around smoking in the lush lawns under the winter sun. In the middle of the ceremony I spotted Anshuman who had travelled ticketless from Bombay to Ahmedabad in the general compartment of a train sitting crouched all night. After the ceremony got over we went for a walk and I was showing him around the campus. As we walked leisurely behind the Old Canteen Anshuman suddenly asked me,"Will you marry me?" and I replied,"Ofcourse!" It was a wonderful wonderful day and I'm glad I found an image of it. May be I could go back someday just so I could get my hands on a decent sized print of it. May be...